The Lost and the Found Brazil!

"When Brazil's national soccer team lost to Germany on Tuesday in a 7-1 rout, it lost something much larger than a game."

Read it and felt that there is something intrinsically common with everyone on this planet. Irrespective of the countries, regions, religions,

"There wasn't even time to suffer," said Almir Leite Rodrigues, 55, a retired history professor, describing the sensation of seeing Germany rack up so many goals so quickly. He and his daughter began watching the game on the beach in Copacabana along with thousands of others before withdrawing to a bench on a seaside avenue to contemplate what had happened.

"Maybe I'll feel something tomorrow," he quietly said. "I am numb at the moment."

Reminding me of the PTSD, Survivor's Guilt, Bipolar Disorder and other stress disorders I studied in the writings of Hemingway. The context was US and the World War. It had left the whole psyche of the US Soldiers, their families, friends and anyone who felt for them, in an acute state of 'FALL". This downfall of strength-this epidemic of despair-disappointment had hit the US hard and we still find the stirs of that depressive decade.

What to think of the Brazil 'depression hangover'? Is it the one that we have witnessed in India in the Pre-IPL era? Or it is the one that can be identified with the the great American depression?

Thanks to the IPL-Cricket remains a religion-but the obsessions has turned into 'controlled-confused compassion' for the spectators. They watch, predict, even put their predictions into the betting rackets, they dance-merry-go for the IPL outing and still remain the 'Cricket Lovers'.

The bouncing back of Brazil-Football Lovers-is necessary and will certainly happen as one can not against the self-EGO.

People have already expressed their willingness to get out of this suffering. Somehow, I feel that this can become a great opportunity to balance-bring the catharsis-of Brazilian Team Fans.

The purification was required to happen and now they will again be back to support the team with refined minds and hearts for the game that puts the world on roll.

Football!

It's Great to be ME!

Arrogance?!
Is it!?!
Let it be!!!
I care a lot about this arrogance and that is why I somehow preserve it.
There is a Rebel in Everyone and Each One of this Everyone fights to preserve it.

I read #ManuJoseph speaking about #RGV and #Kejriwal in The #HindustanTimes.
He made sense to me and I made it clear to my self that there are lot many people who share the same frequency of thinking.
It is not at all about being adamant, being close-minded or being anarchists; it is about being YourSelf!

Now where does this Being Selfish take you?
Does it invite alienation from everything-everyone around?
Is it wrong to be self-concerned?
What do we mean by being Universal?
What is Separate Peace then?
Is it possible to take the positive connotation from the concept of Separate Peace?
YES to the last one and I am here to take this justification process to its logical conclusion.

Discussing Separate Peace is, somehow discussing about my self.
Life, Civilization, Nations, Relations, Family... all are to be discussed and mentioned in relation to Separate Peace as they have an inherited peace, settlement in them: #SeparatePeace.

Happiness is a By Product....UNDERSTANDING the Surroundings!

Happy! or not...

or you follow the dictum- Choose to be Happy!

The diving and coming to surface are very often selected by us. Yet we complain when we don't have the control over circumstantial reactions towards our existence. One desires to prove-collect evidences that the breathing is not just a mechanical affair-rather the person who is making this in-out of the O-Co2, carries something called 'potential. The urge to establish the presence, be it through working, not working or it is through the violent expressions. We amend ourselves a lot, making a precise strategy to have a comfortable stay.

WE are imperative-relative to our surroundings. This does not mean that our surroundings act upon us. Probably most of us have this notion about surroundings and we tend to keep this belief. It gives us a safeguard against any fall, any question or even a failure. We pass the buck to circumstances and to surroundings.

Happiness is, somehow, a by product of this 'adaptability' to 'nature'.

There can be, if fact, there is an INVERSE Action also.

Going with the flow of situations may not lead you to better gains; hence you decide to, even if temporarily, you decide to swim against the current. In all communication, with encouragements, we have the option of doing the inverse and make the other person do what we desire.

It is not just in the humourous cartoon situations that we see them doing things exactly opposite to each other; it happens in life too.

Utilization of the self is a very tactful matter and our mind reciprocates-I don't mean reacts or responds. And this reciprocation is not because one has thought of the world around and wants to return the favours. It is the SELFIE! The very own self that I own, is the doer and receiver of this I do good-because I like good.

My surrounding are not the geographic-demographic entities that come my way every day. Though, I can not reject that there is no thing called surroundings. I do not deny that their is nothing between Happiness and Surroundings. There is a give and take in these two.

But we need to open our mind radar to make the term surroundings more comprehensive or very objective. This is sure that we need to take one side. Taking sides is very crucial in understanding the impact of the 'neighbourhood'.

Things that you remember-remember-respect-repeat are the ones that matter to you. Surrounding is decided by you. The Hindi word "SANGAT (संगत)" corresponds to the term companionship or bit of neigbourhood that someone keeps or has. When we see into this Hindi word and relate it to Surroundings and thereafter to Happiness,we find something well felt-well known-least shared.

My Surroundings are my Happiness!
You can be affected my something which is far away from you and you may not feel even a stir for something which as near as your skin.
There is a Psychological Anesthesia we give to our mind and more special thing about this virtual medicine is that, it works selectively.
On People-on part-on roads-in books-in movies-at work-during journey... We successfully avoid-neglect anything that may be very very crucial in our life-at some other time-in some other context!

...yet another year of being Parveen!

"The difference between the impossible and the possible lies in a person's determination."

It has been not that long time-but still almost five years ( over five years may be as the packing had started) since I joined an unknown workplace. I was less aware of the stature of my job; more fascinated about shifting to a place, I actually did not craved as I felt I was too simple-small to reach here.

The call on the landline, that my mother had picked (from Chhaya Chandraker), I did not respond the call on Mobile-She still called on the landline to reach me-...

The call on landline, when I had agreed to be a candidate for interview seems a thing of yesterday because of the trueness of it. I, then askedKanwar Gagan Deep Chauhan and he said come-I am here and no problem about stay during the process at all...

Another elder brother Vijendra Malik.. and we three made a brotherhood of staying together for more than a couple of years in the same flat. 

Of Course I had got selected and had opted for April 01 as the First Day of My Job.

A Day...that I wanted to smile at...a day that makes many smile at the selection of this very Fool's Day!

Manoj Yadav With you we cherished-relived the colony memories and created a Hafed even here, still it is there as we stay in streets next to each other. (Difference is-I am Married!-You r not!)

Ankur Bhardwaj-AB... the Big Boss..The StrongMan came to job here and we enjoy great time as usual....

The Workplace:

I was conscious to start with the Final Year of MBA-people who were hardly two years younger to me...then another batch of MBA..theRaghvendra Pande and All dears of HR..Took a Semester after them with Marketing too..then moved to 

Engineering suddenly...

The Training of my Parents & Gurus like Lather Sir to Rule with determination and Positivism made me stand firm and work hard.

After the two years of walk-run-walk-run...stereotype working-though with learning n teaching..I had to start my way...

The 2012 passing out batch knows...(they are many to tag here) We did the Research on Employers, We ended up with BLOGGING-That too-Individual Blogs...

That time I learned from the students about more to do...

Today...when I am completing the Fifth Year in a few days in Amity University NOIDA as a Teacher (designations matter very less) of Communication Skills, English & Business Communication...

Each of my section/class has their own blog-WORKING-Full of various type of Learning content by Students only...

I have a working Twiter Handle to interact with-inform students...

A Broadcast Group of Class Representatives on WhatsApp...

More Special..."The Digital Presentation (Communication Skills)" - One has to search it in YouTube or Google videos and see...

I have already Started work-with Students on "Amity Auto-Mob Review" channel on Youtube-where they will review the Automobiles...Will record and will post...

This is done-apart from all that the curriculum policy says! I am able to do all this with the guidance and willingness of students only.

Swati Parv Sharma when we celebrate the Good Day for me on 31st March...

I conclude with yet another year of being Parveen!

‪#‎Amity‬ ‪#‎ParveenAmity‬

Separate Peace-A Costly Affair

It is very costly to establish a separate peace. You need to pay heavily for this. Not in terms of money 'alone'  but in the form of time-attention and ignorance.

One needs to concentrate on someone to ignore the same.

contd....

quoting from HT-12 June- 

Here’s how to tell if you, too, are an everythingist. Do you clutch your phone in your hand at all times, like a beacon against the cold, a magic talisman with its promise of otherness? Did the news that Prism could be spying on all of our data give you a giddy rush when you thought that one of the lockdown powergeeks might be looking in and realising that you are the chosen one?
Do you, like me, think that fairytale endings will magically happen to your life — ie, you will fall in deep rewarding love and raise daughters with Rapunzel hair in a beautiful Welsh farmhouse one day, writing novels on a typewriter, milking your nanny goats at dawn?
The everythingist can’t be tied down by a job and so they work freelance. They are breathlessly addicted to their youth, despite being 12 years older than their parents were when they had them; can’t read a book to the end because they’ve already started two more; and they need to know, at all times, that they could, in theory, if they wanted to, at any point, run away to Rio de Janeiro.
The everythingist works from home, revelling in their freedom to go for a walk in the sunshine while other sad jobsworthy losers are stuck at their desks with not so much as a freelancer’s liedown to look forward to. The everythingist has been planning this walk in the sunshine for 17 days now, having been quite distracted by all the freelancer’s liedowns that it is their right and freedom to enjoy.
If you are not an everythingist, and you’re one of those people who gets stuff done and gets over it — I realise now that you have the greatest freedom of all. I can only apologise for how I used to giggle at you for being boring and keeping lists and being on time while I dashed over half an hour late to meet you, hopes and dreams blinding my eyes so that I couldn’t read a bus timetable.

Random Writings:03 'Negative Relations and Positive Influence'

 Negative Relations and Positive Influence versus Positive Relations and Negative Influence

The terms he derived for the sake of randomizing the random writings.

This is something very common with his days and nights.
He used to create happiness with the quotes and with the ones who gave these.

It was his exam today, means our character is some sort of students too; he has the fortune of remaining a student throughout his life and has already decided what is to be done in the coming decades;apart from becoming a better or best of someone, really the ONE he prayed for.

The home will have new meaning today; and he should not forget to get petrol for the bike and needs to see its insurance renewal also.

And get some fruits and do bring himself to work for the studies.
This minor level exam has brought for him the required 
'i wanaa stand up' willingness.

he hopes that he will tell me so many things..
he is meeting me after so many moments...

c ya...

SP

Random Writings-02

The New Table and The change: Random Writings 02:

When he returned home, sounds divine when you call a house a home, he found a newness in his room.

Someone has come to his side and was standing firmly to colour him with his presence.

For the whole day, he had been dealing with the 'why they neglected me' but now the touch of the wood gave him happiness.

Happiness, though is a relative term, he said.

and the moment he said, he felt that he was being touched with softness and was being prompted to write.

Some amount of cough, some dryness in throat and some of his random conflicts enabled him.

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This was the start of Random Writings-02.

He ranked it, may be numbered, or to say he ranked the numbers.

He could easily feel the face of his inner self on his shoulders and was always aware of her presence.

A presence, that corrects him in his spellings, words and looks.

' I am no one to write'

Why and how to write?

certain answers were already there for these baseless questions.

but, just for the sake of a ritual, he asked these and answered himself.

When he was typing on the not so slow laptop, he saw the sound of the processor and went inside.

Of course, he was dreaming, of course he was not.

The Mr So Called Writer has just woke up.

Let him come out of the bed and realize that the companion is still on his side, very near to him.

He gave a look, with both the eyes, to the table.

He was happy and this has been the only thing that mattered to him.

Live in the present and choose to be Happy.

He said to himself and went back to the snoozing ten minutes.

Let him start the day, man.

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This is Random Writings 02.

Random Writings-1

There was no leaf in the sky.though he was pretty sure that it was a sky.the sky that he painted,he created and believed in and the sky that he celebrated...... 

He started with these lines and suddenly stopped.his wife was calling him was requesting him to go to bed and have a sound sleep to make the morning a good one.he acknowledged and went but demanded a mug of lemon tea.it was there in a few moments and while appreciating the beauty of his beloved he concluded with the fragrance of lemon.She used to be his support and the first critic and he always narrated his first lines to her.sharing the first lines had always given him the confidence to move on.many times to move over also.he was a strong man now.with intellect and interest.But his passion and obsession with the lemon tea was not changed.he demanded another consignment of lemon tea.the love repeated but with a warning that if u don't go to bed, ... the fragrance will be there in your hair. So Mr so called writer went to sleep.and the first chapter remained incomplete.with a sense of completeness.

The shift from Student to Stagnant Stake Holder-Customer-Student again!

The shift from Student to Stagnant Stake Holder-Customer-Student again!

I see hope!

Questioning takes place in business and learning-teaching-imparting and gaining knowledge is not a business or a trade or even retail…

It can never be.

We may have this notion that we have developed upon the old system of education, we may feel secure by removing the history…as you know we were required to remove history- The Raj of Invaders- but we removed our heritage, as anything 'old' is history for us.

The circle ends there-it starts from where.

What about the Day-Boarding Schools- Gurukul in fact- but costly.

Spending money-having air conditioned rooms, LCD, Laptops, comfortable transport system and facilities and communication tools also, cannot change the way of life.

My view can be seen in the laboratory on HOME. Parents do teach you and these so called development evidences do not add anything to that. It is the teacher basically, who teaches here, the 'parents'.

The facilities and all developmental evidences are not replacing the teaching methods; they have been devised to strengthen it. These are just facilities that have their presence when and as required.

One may not agree with what I say, but this agreement is what the 'reformed teaching' India had developed when there was a need to make minds ready for governance and fights. When it was concerned with learning- it remained plain learning.

From the experience, at present, I have an intuition, not to be mistaken as an excuse to support my defence, I am sure that we are heading to the culmination of this 'transition' in life.

Education will definitely return to the way it used to be, keeping the developmental tools with it and adding more of such inventions.

Inventing-Developing and Adopting new ways of imparting knowledge is to be seen as one-in fact to be believed rather than seeing it.

A teacher- Teacher I mean- must not be questioned, rather to be taken as a model, if not role model. THIS must be analysed as a 'Complete Presence' not fragmented incidents.

Fixations create bondage- being radical with liberal and broad-minded approach will let you live with your 'self'- the basic/real human being.

be with the "ALL" you have with you.

Religion has again come to the prime segment and the transition that was taking place for years has now bit visible to us, if we try to.
An North Indian celebrating Ganesh Utsav, or even attending Onam, Pongal, Jagannath Puja etc, celebrations in the neighbourhood, millions going to Mata Vaishno Devi, where as, it was considered one for Punjabis only in the last century.

What is happening...?

is it Religious Tourism on the line of Literary Tourism  and Medical Tourism in India..or it has nothing to do with this sense.
If not, then the chapter is closed and we will not analyse what exactly it means.

But

to the one who remains on this planet and want to see things happening, this is a treat to study the pattern of religions getting into each other and making a rainbow alike arrangement.

This is the process we call 'Evolve'.
This is why the term Religions is referred as ONE, though we never practiced the dictum, and this double think helped religion to make a liable and reliable base in our life.

Life is a transition, not from one pole to the other one, with no return.
It is something that has circular-vertical-horizontal- as well as static development of its essence.

Humanity is what we mean by Humanity.
It is not rocket science, its Life, it is in You and in the one sanding by your side.
Understanding things and people around you is far better and easy than trying to define the unknown.

All is same-interconnected and divine.

So, be with the "ALL" you have with you.


Parveen

Let it happen!!!

Mounting of things on your mind does have some planetary interventions?
Might be true....may be false too!
I had heard it as a dictum that when one is not able to resolve or understand the situations, he turns to superstitions.

DO I need to oppose it....
Do I have a justification to force on you and instruct you to leave the 'one' whom you have felt like supportive.
Life is about saying " it will be all right; you will do it; don't worry" and who so ever says or does this will definitely be preferred.
Is it the discomfort we feel when we are not asked but the 'one' goes ahead to 'baseless' superstitions?
Supporting that falling person will create trust and gratitude, and that is the same thing 'superstitions-fasts' creates.

Going to temple comes as a remedy...
Let it happen!!! or interrupt with Support only.
Don't indulge in the life, rather interfere...


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Writing today...the PULP and the School of thought..and the coming of HINDI Thriller Fiction...

its Freedom, not the Absence!

One must have faced the charge of being so much dependent on the 'advice' of 'others'.
It is not really dangerous to follow what the 'selected' advice or guide to...
It does not make you Passive!
The task of selecting the 'Selected' is more significant; and afterwards the One you consider your alter-ego or mirror must be asked for decisions when you need.
Life is to be un-complicated not to be questioned every moment.
There is nothing like Philosophical, its feelings only.
All to be acknowledged that comes from fellow beings.

reciprocal altruism

There has been a running- alive-perennial revolution in our mindsets. We have been reforming ourselves on all levels of life. It is not a thing to wonder when we see relations defined with more precision or even with more subjectivity. One has to believe in the capacity to understand and execute. One has to live in separate peace, yet aligned with everything around. Being self-conscious does not mean being selfish at all. It is the economics of relativity.
It is the science of reciprocal altruism.
I understand.

pieces .. two .. just two..

‘A Dream within a Dream’

Manipulation must not be an unfamiliar phenomenon for us. Being a human, I am caught in the survival war, so are you!

 Then, why don’t we accept it as our strength. To manipulate, you need more understanding of the situation you are in and you need to know people around you to make them accept you and your sayings. Thought is a more worked on thing when you have a plan and a defined motive.

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Willing to write something again on the Survivor’s Guilt, I worked on in my M Phil dissertation, in 2007-08. It is indeed interesting to see the after-effects of that. More understanding of the human mind has enabled me to take the Psychology of Mankind as a study again.

Communication Psychology, a term that I mentioned in a failed interview-where I was not eligible- has been passioned by me now.

I wish to see into this thing now.

fragments of thought..... re-arranged

Being alive doesn’t exactly mean to be alive.

Sounds contradictory?

That’s what the point is…

Being alive is being Contradictory . . . not to anyone. . But, to the one who is You.

I believe our true self is not the motivated one by default. It’s the dejected self that we carry in this body. . Now what we do with this is to be seen with interested eyes.

We constantly push it hard to the edge, to perform well. It’s a call about proving your existence or your presence to the things around you.

That’s where you contradict yourself. . . Being alive is motivating the Self all times. It is not just the inhaling or breathing.

It is being with your own self…Telling it that it is not alone. You will make it alive. When I start my day with some motto-some task, I tend to bring activism to me. When I look ahead, I look to the possibilities that I force on my existence. I behave as per them and try hard to keep the acceptance I got for the first ‘fulfilment’ of the expectations.

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I have lived with a thought or a rule that people are not to be disliked. They are as they are made of by their upbringing. But, for how long we curb the mind's working; the analytical side brings out the right and wrong for us. It is biased, it is bound to be.

When I think of myself, I am biased. How can one go against the self he carries within? Even if you do it few times or many times, you will have to get into your real at some point. That’s what Consciousness is.

And that’s what I call being ‘alive’.

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Establishing Separate Peace is what is born with us. For all my life, I have been thinking of non-philosophical understanding of the cause and effect of our being. Though, I am no one to give a treatise even now, still some sort of understanding stirs have come. I am usually not annoyed, literally, not with anyone. There may be some surface level expressions, but when I know or feel the context and cause of the actions of others, I am with them. This is my peace. Not Separate; but still not synonym with any other.

The Uniqueness brings Separatism and I add that to Peace.

Creating the delicious Separate Peace!!!

from the neighborhood....KoneykaCabin sent this..

We all have our likes and possessiveness for them! It is never possible for us to accept that something or someone whom we love and care can go away from us or we can harm them.

Strong Likes or Attachment for something leads to 'dislike'. It seems odd and bit foolish too to say that my compassion for something will generate dislike or disappointment for the same thing!

It happens dear!!!

If I am very compassionate for you...means I feel possessive too. I feel it is my right to have compassion and I also feel that when you, whom I think i love and care for, do something I haven't expected or thought of, I feel angry or get aggressive.

My 'liking' turns into dislike though in most transient form when I don't get attention.

But, I ponder over this question, why I started predicting your words and thoughts or doings. I could have waited for you to say what you have to say rather than putting words on your tongue. I could have restricted myself from completing your sentences without your consent.

Often, we all do this. Some people do it more often and some are on the most often frequency.

Definitely, we carry unending compassion for our loved ones. Then we become so possessive that we start predicting their behaviour and words. And when our "accurate predictions" do not match with the original, we are offended.

We have aggression and complaints.

The Simple reason behind this AGGRESSION is that We Stop Listening in a relation.

And ultimately, we the pseudo-sensitive hearts find the magic of the relationship lost!!!

The panacea for aggression, for anger, for detachment and disappointment and fear is in LISTENING.

talk to- the Separate Peace.

Peace is a narative of Absence- Absence of Nothing-or everything.
One needs to have togetherness with the intimate self of his being.
I mean being there-with your own breathing- enables you to talk to Yourself.

"Separatism" is all positive-generates self care-brings 'I' to you.

Establishing the Separate Peace is not required-  it is all pervasive.

I want to let myself- talk to- the Separate Peace.